The rate you expect, the perfection you demand, the effortlessness you hope for—all commonly unrealistic. Research by Polivy on the “False Hope Syndrome” shows unrealistic expectations lead to abandonment when reality doesn’t match. Real change is slower, messier, and harder than imagined—but more sustainable. Adjusting expectations isn’t giving up; it’s growing up.
This companion covers common unrealistic expectations, their sources, realistic replacements, and the adjustment practice. (3 min read)