Today’s prompt, and the companion piece behind it.
The “Just One”
You tell yourself you’ll have just one cookie, chip, or bite. Based on your history with this food, is that realistic?
The Short Answer
Your own history is the evidence that matters here. If you’ve successfully had “just one” of this food multiple times before and stopped easily, you can probably do it again. If your history shows that “just one” reliably becomes just-the-whole-thing, then “just one” is a lie you’re telling yourself. The decision isn’t whether to have one: it’s whether to start at all.
Something to Sit With
What food do you tell yourself “just one” about most often?
What actually happens when you have “just one”?
If your history says “just one” doesn’t work, what would it mean to stop pretending it does?
Learn More
The “Just One” Lie.
“Just one” is one of the most common self-deceptions around food. It sounds reasonable:
- “I’ll just have one cookie”
- “Just a few chips”
- “One small bite”
The problem is that “just one” assumes you can stop after one. For many people, with many foods, this assumption is false.
The first bite activates reward circuits.[1] The taste can leave you wanting more. “One” was manageable in theory; in practice, it becomes the gateway to many.
The History Test.
Don’t theorize. Look at your actual track record:
Think of the last five times you had “just one” of this food. What actually happened?
- Did you stop at one? Really?
- Did one become three, five, ten?
- Did you finish what was in front of you?
- Did you go back for more later?
If four out of five times ended with eating more than intended, “just one” isn’t realistic for you with this food. Your history has already answered the question.
Why Some Foods Defeat Moderation.
Certain foods, particularly hyperpalatable ones, are hard to eat in moderation:
Incomplete satiety. The more a food is liked, the less it fills at the same number of calories: across 38 foods tested at matched energy, palatability ran against satiety.[2] Not no fullness, then, but less of it than the pleasure would lead you to expect. The size of the gap has been measured: in a controlled feeding trial people ate about 508 more calories a day on an ultra-processed diet than on a matched unprocessed one, while rating the meals no more pleasant, and their appetite hormones moved with it; the satiety signal PYY stayed lower and hunger-signaling ghrelin higher than on the unprocessed diet.[2] The signal is “more,” not “enough.”
Sensitized response. If you’ve repeatedly overeaten a food, the first taste may trigger a stronger response than it would in someone without that history. The sensitization work behind this is animal research (intermittent sugar access producing cross-sensitization with cocaine and amphetamine in rats), so read it as a plausible account of what you notice, not as a measurement of you.[3]
This doesn’t apply to all foods. You can probably have one apple and stop. One piece of grilled chicken. One serving of vegetables. These foods have natural stopping points.
The foods where “just one” fails are usually the ones with the most intense reward signals and least satiety response.
The Honest Assessment.
Instead of asking “can I have just one?” ask:
“What usually happens when I eat this?” Base your prediction on history, not hope.
“Am I rationalizing?” Is “just one” a genuine plan or a permission slip to start?
“What do I actually want?” One cookie? Or the experience of eating cookies until they’re gone?
“Is this a trigger food?” If so, the strategy isn’t moderation: it’s abstinence.
The Alternative.
If your history says “just one” doesn’t work, you have two options:
Option 1: Don’t start. Zero is easier than one for trigger foods. You’re not moderating; you’re not engaging. The sequence never begins.
Option 2: Plan for reality. If you’re going to have some, accept that you’ll probably have more than “just one.” Build that into your decision. “I’m going to eat these cookies, and I’ll probably eat several” is more honest than “I’ll just have one.”
The worst option is telling yourself “just one” when you know that’s not what will happen. That’s self-deception that leads to eating more and feeling bad about it.
Reframing the Choice.
The question isn’t “can I have just one?”
The question is: “Given what I know about myself and this food, what’s actually going to happen if I take that first bite?”
Answer honestly. Then decide whether to start.
Further reading:
- Gearhardt AN et al., “Neural correlates of food addiction”[4] — Archives of General Psychiatry, 2011
- Fazzino TL, Rohde K & Sullivan DK, “Hyper-palatable foods: Development of a quantitative definition and application to the US food system database”[5] — Obesity, 2019
- Avena NM, Rada P & Hoebel BG, “Evidence for sugar addiction: behavioral and neurochemical effects of intermittent, excessive sugar intake”[6] — Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, 2008
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