Today’s prompt, and the companion piece behind it.
The Barbecue
You’re at a summer barbecue with burgers, hot dogs, chips, and beer. What’s your plate look like?
The Short Answer
Barbecues are protein-friendly environments if you navigate them right. Your plate: grilled meat (burger patty without the bun, chicken, steak if available), maybe a hot dog if that’s what you want, any vegetable sides or salad. Skip: the bun, the chips, the sugary sauces, multiple beers. This isn’t about being antisocial or obsessive: it’s about enjoying the event, eating satisfying food, and not leaving bloated with regret. Barbecues can be both enjoyable and aligned with your goals.
Something to Sit With
What has your typical barbecue plate looked like?
Could you enjoy the event as much, or more, with a simpler plate?
What’s your drink strategy for this kind of event?
Learn More
The Barbecue Opportunity.
Unlike many social eating situations, barbecues offer genuine advantages:
Protein-forward by default. Grilled meat is the centerpiece.
Bunless is acceptable. Eating a burger without a bun is unremarkable at a barbecue.
Simple preparations. Grilled chicken or steak is whole food, minimally processed (hot dogs and many sausages are not).
Outdoor activity. You might actually move around: lawn games, socializing, kids playing.
The challenge is the sides, drinks, and quantity, not the core offering.
Building Your Plate.
The protein foundation:
- Burger patty (skip the bun, or use lettuce wrap)
- Grilled chicken
- Steak if available
- Hot dog if that’s what you want (lower-quality meat, but protein is protein)
- Ribs (watch the sugary sauce)
The additions:
- Salad (if available)
- Grilled vegetables
- Fresh vegetables with minimal dressing
- Coleslaw (often has sugar, but vegetables at least)
The skips:
- Buns (mostly refined carbs)
- Chips (hyperpalatable, easy to overeat)
- Potato salad and macaroni salad (calorie-dense, mayo-heavy)
- Sugary baked beans
- Multiple desserts
The Drink Question.
Alcohol at barbecues presents its own decision:
Option 1: Skip entirely. Water, sparkling water, unsweetened iced tea. Perfectly acceptable, avoids alcohol’s calories altogether.
Option 2: One drink, decided in advance. A light beer, a vodka soda, a glass of wine. One means one, decided before arrival.
Option 3: A few drinks, accepted as a trade-off. This is an occasion. You’re choosing to have 2-3 drinks knowing the calories involved.
The problem is Option 4: unplanned drinking that starts with one and ends with six. Decide before you arrive.
The Social Navigation.
“Want a bun?” “No thanks, I’m good without.”
“You’re not having chips?” “I’m full from the meat.”
“Just have one more beer.” “I’m switching to water, but thanks.”
“Try my potato salad.” A small taste is fine if you want. “It’s great!” without eating the whole thing.
Most people are attending to their own plate and whether the party is fun. How closely anyone watches yours is not something this research measures: what it does show is that people match the eating around them, and that a companion eating less pulls intake down harder than one eating more pushes it up.[1]
The Quantity Factor.
Even good barbecue choices can be overdone:
Protein is filling: in the moment, which is the part worth being exact about. Higher-protein meals raise how full people feel, modestly in the review’s own word, but that does not carry through to eating less later: across 24 acute feeding trials, 11 showed increased fullness afterward and only 3 showed any reduction in intake at the next meal.[2] So one or two servings of grilled meat is plenty for the meal in front of you; do not count on it doing the work at supper.
Eat slowly. Conversation, outdoor activity, and socializing can slow eating. Let the event pace you.
One plate. Get what you want, enjoy it, and be done. The food will be there all afternoon; you don’t need to eat it all.
The Enjoyment Factor.
This isn’t about suffering through a party:
Grilled meat is delicious. You’re not sacrificing pleasure by eating burgers and chicken.
Social connection is the point. The barbecue is about people, not consumption. Focus there.
Satisfaction without regret. Leaving satisfied rather than stuffed, with no guilt, is more enjoyable for many people.
One strategic choice. If there’s one specific thing you really want (a slice of pie, a few chips with the dip), have it. Planned indulgence isn’t failure.
The After-Effect.
When you leave:
How do you feel? Satisfied and energized, or bloated and sleepy?
What do you remember? The conversation and connection, or what you ate?
What happens next? Normal evening eating, or “I blew it so might as well continue”?
The way you eat at the barbecue can affect the hours and days after.
Further reading:
- Herman CP et al., Social Influences on Eating[3] (2019)
- Hollands GJ et al., “Altering the availability or proximity of food, alcohol, and tobacco products to change their selection and consumption”[4] — Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews, 2019
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