Today’s prompt, and the companion piece behind it.
The Office Kitchen
You’re refilling your water and notice treats in the office kitchen. What do you do?
The Short Answer
Notice, don’t engage. Walk in with a purpose (water), complete that purpose, and leave. Don’t linger, don’t assess the treats, don’t negotiate with yourself. The moment you stop to consider whether you’ll have “just one,” you may already have lost ground. Treats in office kitchens aren’t decisions to make each time; they’re background noise you’ve already decided to ignore. Refill your water, appreciate that you’re taking care of yourself, and return to work.
Something to Sit With
How many times per day do you pass through spaces with available food?
What would happen if you stopped seeing those encounters as decisions?
Can you let treats be simply irrelevant, rather than temptations to overcome?
Learn More
The Kitchen Gauntlet.
The office kitchen is a minefield for unplanned eating:
Constant exposure. You may pass through several times a day: coffee, water, microwave, refrigerator. Each pass is a potential encounter.
Unpredictable inventory. You never know what’s there. Someone’s birthday cake, leftover meeting pastries, a “just because” donut box.
Social element. Others are eating. Not participating can feel isolating.
Workplace stress. You’re often visiting the kitchen precisely when you need a break, and food offers an easy escape.
The Strategy.
Enter with purpose. Know why you’re there before you walk in. Water. Coffee. Lunch from the fridge. Complete that task.
Don’t assess the offerings. Stopping to look at what’s available turns a non-event into a decision; and food that takes less effort to reach gets eaten more, a moderate effect on low-certainty evidence.[1] If you don’t look closely, there’s nothing to decide.
Maintain movement. Stand, fill your water, leave. Don’t sit down near the treats. Don’t position yourself where lingering is natural.
Have something in hand. Your water bottle, your coffee, your lunch. Hands occupied with your actual purpose leave no hands for browsing.
Leave promptly. On this page’s reasoning, the longer you stay, the more likely you are to decide one won’t hurt. Get in, get out.
The Internal Negotiation.
The moment you slow down, the negotiations begin:
“I’ve been good lately, I could have one.” “It’s just sitting there, might as well.” “Everyone else is having some.” “I’ll skip my afternoon snack to compensate.”
These negotiations feel like rational thought. Often they’re not; they’re justification after desire has already kicked in.
The best way to win a negotiation is to not have one. Don’t engage with the treat at a level that requires deciding. It’s not a decision; it’s not your food; it’s background furniture.
The Identity Approach.
Instead of “Should I have a treat?” ask: “What does someone who’s managing their eating well do here?”
They refill their water. They continue with their day. They don’t view random office treats as opportunities or deprivations, just as irrelevant to their purpose.
You’re not missing out. You’re staying on track.
When You Actually Want Something.
If you genuinely want an office treat (not reflexively, not from stress, but actually want it), that’s a different scenario:
- Is this planned or impulsive?
- Are you hungry or just tempted?
- Is this worth it to you?
Sometimes the answer is yes. But that decision happens before entering the kitchen, not while standing in front of donuts. If you hadn’t decided before you saw them, the answer is probably no.
Building the Habit.
On the usual habit account, each successful pass through the kitchen reinforces the pattern:
First few times: Requires conscious effort, deliberate purpose, maybe some tension.
After weeks: Becomes more automatic. You barely notice what’s there.
Eventually: The office kitchen is just a room. Treats are background. You’re getting your water.
This is the goal: not constant resistance, but automatic non-engagement.
Further reading:
- Hollands GJ et al., “Altering the availability or proximity of food, alcohol, and tobacco products to change their selection and consumption”[2] — Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews, 2019
- Marteau TM, Hollands GJ & Fletcher PC, “Changing human behavior to prevent disease: the importance of targeting automatic processes”[3] — Science, 2012
- Neal DT, Wood W & Quinn JM, “Habits—a repeat performance”[4] — Current Directions in Psychological Science, 2006
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