When the team orders lunch, you have three options: participate strategically (order something reasonable while maintaining social connection), abstain entirely (“not hungry,” “have a meeting”), or bring your own. Research by Herman and Polivy shows others’ orders influence yours—ordering first reduces conformity pressure. The choice depends on how supportive the environment is and how reliable your ordering choices tend to be. Don’t default—decide intentionally.
This companion covers each option and execution. (4 min read)