The Self-Talk

The voice in your head after a slip matters enormously. Research by Neff shows self-criticism triggers shame spirals that often lead to more eating. “You’re such a failure” doesn’t motivate; it demoralizes. Constructive self-talk— “That happened. What can I learn?”—supports recovery.

Would you speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself? This companion covers the criticism spiral, what harsh self-talk sounds like, why it doesn’t work, and constructive alternatives. (3 min read)

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There’s more to read here — a companion essay that goes deeper into this topic. It might explore why willpower fades by evening, how your kitchen layout shapes what you eat, or what it really means to become someone who simply eats well. Each one takes a few minutes and leaves you thinking.

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