Decide before you get there. Standing at a buffet with a plate in your hand is the worst possible time to make food decisions. Advance if-then plans have a medium-to-large effect on follow-through across 94 studies, and they help most exactly where a party sits, when getting started is the hard part. But the wording matters as much as the plan: negation-framed intentions can backfire through ironic rebound, so “I will NOT eat the bread” can increase both the thought and the behavior, while “if I’m near the bread, I take the vegetables instead” works. Write the skip list as substitutions, not prohibitions. And the reason to plan at all isn’t a willpower tank — that model is contested — it’s that goal intentions alone predict only 20 to 30% of behavior.
This companion covers why pre-planning works, the pre-party strategy, and tactics once you arrive. (5 min read)
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