365 Changes

The Identity Conflict

Written by

Craig Constantine

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Part of you wants to change and part resists—that resistant part isn’t random, it’s protecting something. Research by Schwartz using Internal Family Systems therapy shows working with conflicting parts rather than against them. The resistance might fear failure, protect an identity built around struggle, or guard relationships that might shift. This companion covers common protections, dialogue with resistance, offering genuine reassurance, and achieving integration rather than victory over yourself. (3 min read)

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