External validation is unreliable fuel — people don’t always notice, comments taper off, visible progress slows. Research by Deci and Ryan on self-determination shows internal motivation is more sustainable than external rewards. Connect your eating to your own values, measure what matters to you, find satisfaction in the process.
This companion covers why external validation is fragile, building internal motivation, identity over validation, and what to do when the compliments stop coming. (3 min read)
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